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Quick Good Fortune TIPS In This Issue… Quick Good Fortune: Fear of making mistakes holds you back now: take a chance this week & surprise yourself. Hot Topic of the Week:

I can’t see what I’m doing that is limiting me…(…and several long stories soul-searching for the answer that are distilled into 7 common addictions that build a glass cage limiting choices.)


A Quick Good Fortune Insight: All human behaviors are genetic – ALL ofeverything you do in life!!  Much of what you inherited - your parents did too - and passed it on unknowingly.  You are not alone at having difficulty seeing your own limits. Few can see beyond the truths they live in every day.  Yet – if you experience limits -seen or not - limits are THERE!! 

“To dream anything that 
you want to dream. That is 
the beauty of the human mind. 
To do anything that you want 
to do. That is the strength of 
the human will. To trust 
yourself to test your 
limits. That is the 
courage to succeed.”

Bernard Edmonds

Any Addictions? Test: You have all you desire.
Not getting what you desire is a big red flag. You know you desire & you see the results of a blocking force that feels like a glass barrier. You cansee what you want, but not reach it. Once you see what to look for – it won’t be hard to stop the bad habits – and to exchange them for a broader viewpoint.

Think of it like traveling from a tiny small town to an expansive vista – within reach of all you desire.

Living an ideal

If you are positive forward thinking and living in the now – then you love your now and you love your potential. Equally. Few do that day-to-day and it gets even harder when your life is enmeshed with an active family, friends, work and activities. 

Without quiet time - you cannot hear yourself nor see your habits that limit you. Take time for yourself and spend it alone. And quiet. Listen. Look at the “trail” of your life’s story – allow your imagination to show you where it is leading.

“To travel is to discover 
that everyone is wrong 
about other countries.” 

Aldous Huxley

If you don’t want to continue the genetic pre-programmed outcome you are living – then all that can change is your mind and ideas – and your behavior or responses to your life. 

“Responding” is the culprit - and that’s where it has to stop if you want anew ending to your life-story. When you catch yourself “in the act” of “sabotaging your future” you make huge shifts. In that moment – when you see what is happening – changing is quick. You don’t eat food that makes you sick, right? Once you discover the consequences… then changes follow naturally. You cannot fight yourself and win. Can’t make yourself …just “do it.”  But you can instantly change when you see what you do is getting results you don’t want.

“I travel a lot; 
I hate having 
my life disrupted 
by routine.” 

Caskie Stinnett

Addictions and habits run 95% of life.
Your subconscious mind is in control. Work with it. It is active, and on-target, following a program. It got that way with repetition over generations…and it is working – after all – you are here – safe. This is an awesome power – train it to produce results you really want. If you want changes, then repeat what you want — and assure yourself of the “safety”of your new common sense approach.  If you fear “travel” then you can’t expect a joyful vacation abroad, right? Old fearful responses can change.

“The traveler sees 
what he sees. 

The tourist sees 
what he has come 
to see.” 

G.K. Chesterton

Childhood experiences & Trauma.
Your first 7 years were spent absorbing your family, schooling and surroundings – none of it was ‘assessed or evaluated.’  Now is a good time to look into it.  If you heard as a child limiting ideas, and if your parents were limited and afraid – then you got those ideas too. It might be unconscious – but you see it in the limits you experience in your life. That’s the real test. Are you getting what you love and living a life of your dreams? 

“Common-sense in
an uncommon degree 
is what the world 
calls wisdom.” 

Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Energy Medicine: EFT, Tapping, PSTEC and TAT
There are many choices that release pent-up trauma – and the intro’s in all the programs are free. If you have tried some of them - add a new onethis week. PSTEC or Percussive Suggestion Technique, is an audio tape that you listen to while you concentrate on your limiting ideas. Very soon you will find your concentration disrupted – and once the old neuron-pathways are disconnected – you may be free to explore another way of living. Habits are tough to break – use the tools that make it easy. It takes repetition and commitment. It works - your task is to figure out how to get it to work for you. If what you are doing now is not working – time to try something new. Repeating more of the old stuff just keeps you stuck!!

Addictions = limits  You don’t need limits Do you feel as if others box you in? They don’t. If an “invisible barrier” is limiting your future – dissolve it as easily as you change an old habit. Energy = Life Force = You Find the source of the problem within you. Fix habits, disruptions and stagnate energy blocks quickly. It may take many layers to uncover an early pre-verbal trauma - so begin right now. It is not going to get better waiting around.  Many only take action when a deadly disease or a pain or loss strikes them down. Hello? Let’s not do that. Start now and bring yourself into balance – mindful and happy. “An intelligent fool can  make things bigger, more complex, and  more violent. It takes  a touch of genius -  and a lot of courage -  to move in the  opposite direction.” Hoshang N. Akhtar The 7 Deadly Addictions and the Antidotes: 1) The Addiction to Gossip, Judgment and Blame.  Why do we find fault with others? To feel “safe” ourselves. Disapproval of others and seeking consensus is a tribal habit - and you have many thousands of generations practicing it. The idea is that if someone is to “blame” or “bad” then I am “good.” The media exploits this “blame game” under the guise of “intelligent inquiry.” It is not.Blame is a cesspool of negative feelings that soon destroys your peace of mind – and your future success. Success is a relationship game and you dis the co-players – you dis yourself. “If you reject the food,  ignore the customs,  fear the religion and  avoid the people,  you might better  stay home.”  James Michener Antidote:  Looking for solutions and finding harmony – no matter what. The reward? Cooperation and help when you need it, and your energy free to create your vision. 2.) Addiction to Ideas and Opinions of other People.   Striving for consensus is a tribal habit and necessary to get cooperation in fearful circumstances such as a forced migration or hostile intrusion. That is not happening now. If you find you respond to the opinions or ideas of others …as if you were subject to their rule and your safety depended on the outcome….(Boss? Mate? Leader?) you are caught in an old, old habit. For centuries most of the population were servants, serfs and slaves - and the opinions of the “Masters” was life/death. Revisit it now. “You’re only as  young as the last  time you changed  your mind.”  Timothy Leary Do you run to the “news” or phone or social sites for opinions & attitudes? Are you addicted to what others think about you, your opinion, and how others’ view the world? Is their opinion affecting you? Feeling unsure of yourself is the culprit.Your feelings of insecurity change when you instead trust and value your point of view – no matter what others do or think. “The World is a book,  and those who do  not travel read  only a page.”  St. Augustine Antidote: the awareness that your ideas & feelings rule your life. No ones’ opinion or idea can interfere with yours unless you fight them or succumb – and you give it your attention. Once you are locked in combat or if you follow meekly along the “tribal custom” or “party line” – then you are doing it to yourself. Scattered? Confused? Stop it. Your Focus and your Attention determine your safety and your outcome: nothing else.    “Travel and change  of place impart new  vigor to the mind.”  Seneca 3.) The Addiction to Pleasing and Seeking Approval.  Your sense of self-worth can not come from another’s opinion of you. That is “other-worth” and when they are gone - so is your “approval.”  For a young child, withholding love and acceptance is life-threatening and many parents use that ploy to insist children do what pleases them. Children trained to “please” and ignore their own feelings are soon co-dependent and dysfunctional.  Oftentimes eating disorders are tied into not getting love as a child, and then eating to “feel good” and “numb” the hurt. Your logical mind is no help. If you find this behavior (or results) – and it doesn’t seem “justified” – you have naturally forgotten the facts and dynamics of a pre-verbal interaction.  “I have found out  that there ain’t no  surer way to find  out whether you  like people or  hate them than  to travel with them.”  Mark Twain You can’t please or help – or hurt others. It is always an inside do-it-yourself job. Those that are unhappy are unhappy. You have nothing to do with it. And if you believe someone is making YOU unhappy – that is a childhood habit-pattern that is a sad dead-end. Once your happiness depends on another – you can no longer be happy – ever. It’s an endless quest to get them to please you. They can’t - so the good ones give up and move on.  “The years teach  much which the  days never knew.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson Antidote: leave other people out of your personal “happiness equation” and discover 100 things that make you happy and go do them. Show yourselfthat it is up to you. The more happiness you find – the more you attract into your life. Soon you will have the happy life you seek – no matter what others choose. “We are made wise  not by the recollection  of our past, but by  the responsibility  for our future.”  George Bernard Shaw   4) The Addiction to Revenge, Grief or Hurts from the Past.  Revenge, remorse, guilt and grief are allprojections of the cause of your pain – outside of yourself. Pain is not out in the world. It resides within you in stagnant or blocked emotions; and amind obsessing on a story. Projection onto others is the hope to relieve your suffering at the expense of another. However – You are inflicting your own pain, and no one is causing you suffering but you. Good news: you can stop it.  “The longer we dwell on our misfortunes,  the greater is their  power to harm us.”  Voltaire Over time an unhealthy attachment to events or situations from the past grow dark, sticky and can even expand to a national level – as in Ireland or the mid-east. It is a very old habit and stories are passed down for generations, together with feelings of fear and hatred. Once the mind begins obsessing on a subject that feels threatening, it is stuck in how things were, and does not see “safe” and potential in the moment or future.  “Memory is  the mother  of all wisdom.”  Aeschylus Antidote: Only the awareness that what you concentrate on – will expand - can free you. Step back and see the centuries of feuding and stories as the cause of the suffering – not the long ago event. There is no suffering outside of you. It doesn’t exist in the world, like weather or a river.It absorbs your creativity and dampens your spirit.Quit it cold. “Do not let  your fears choose  your destiny.” Theodore Roosevelt 5.) The Addiction to Anxiety or Fear of the Future.  Worry, anxiety, doubt, fear of making mistakes or losing what you have are fears of what “might”happen. This addiction includes all the negative and self-defeating thoughts about “what could happen” that make you anxious and stressed and unable to take action outside of old limiting well-known habits. Feeling insecure and unable to affect your own life contribute to the habits of freezing and becoming immobile in the face of a challenge, change or decision. That is a childhood response that is still running your life, and will until you change it. Begin working on the first Addictions, and once you feel more in charge of your future – your fear will subside. “Worry never robs  tomorrow of its sorrow,  it only saps today  of its joy.” Ralph Waldo Emerson Antidote: The awareness that what you fear you attract to you - and thus you make your fears real. If you indulge in fears of the future – you are setting yourself up.  Now you know. Make smallchanges and new decisions and affirm and insist on a good outcome. Train your mind to accept success and not run from potential defeat. Take it easy – as your fears are set in motion – and you need time to stop them and to reinforce the positive future you choose. “The only way of  catching a train  I ever discovered  is to miss the  train before.”  G.K. Chesterton 6.) The Addiction to Emotional Turmoil and Drama. Attraction to unsettling situations, abuse and tension are survival patterns learned from childhood. Often the “victim” continually chooses those that play “aggressor,” to reenact their childhood story. Sometimes it is an emotional  addiction to others who substitute for a parent that was addicted to drugs, alcohol or substance abuse.Some people, like a moth to a flame, are drawn to and consumed by any event or situation that fills their mind with fear. The one blamed is often seen as the culprit but they are always a scape-goat. Sound like a bad habit – it is! “It is easy to  be brave from  a safe distance.” Aesop   Antidote: The addiction is to fear and feeling unsafe in an attempt to solve an unsolvable problem and be safe in a dangerous situation! Whew. It isn’t going to work, right? Get safe, and try affirming how safe you really are – right now – over and over – and very soon you will persuade your subconscious mind that things have changed. If you are NOT safe in your current situation then step one is to GET SAFE.  Until you stop the pattern of fear and turmoil that keeps the childhood story alive – your situation cannot improve. Once you see that you are doing it to you, only then can changes occur that will liberate your energy to more creative choices. 7.)  Addiction to Appearances or Possessions  For many centuries, the wealthiest men had the power to choose beautiful women. For a man,possessions (cattle, sheep, camels, gold, jewels) were the guarantee of a happy life.Suicide is common among men who suddenly lose everything – after all: that stuff was their “identity or worth.” Today we still call a young pretty gal a “trophy wife” when married to a wealthy man three times her age. The flip side of this obsession: The prettiest (sexiest) women were chosen and the others became servants, slaves or worse. Being pretty or attractive or fashionable was more than a hobby – it was survival and women today react to aging as if they about to be shot.  “How can you be a sage if  you’re pretty?  You can’t get  your wizard  papers without  wrinkles.”  Bill Veeck Fashionable? Or Fashion Victim? Dress, Tattoos, jewelry – all show ranking within society and at the least, was required to fit into a clan. Today entire groups embrace the  sensational and unconventional – and all look alike with multi-colored hair, piercing and tattoos. Every tribe and culture has identifying marks and dress. No one escapes. Yet there is a big difference between being driven by obsession – and dressing for style and — for the fun of it.  “Too often travel,  instead of broadening  the mind, merely  lengthens the  conversation.”  Elizabeth Drew  Antidote: Notice your evaluations of others and feelings of self-worth tied to appearance or possessions. Break the habit and stop compulsive behaviors, including shopping and beauty tune-ups. Men have as difficult a time separating from their accomplishments and possessions. Break the old habits and judge yourself and your friends on their personality, support, and other qualities you value in yourself.  No man  was ever wise  by chance.  Seneca Addicted? Compulsive? Invisible shields? Old habits of thought, actions and reactions operate beneath the surface of awareness. Become aware – or mindful – of what you are doing and how you respond. That is the breakthrough that will free you.  What you don’t know, or ignore, can and IS hurting you.  The 7 Addictions tie up your creative energy and dis-empower you. Once you are hooked and sucked into an old habit – it’s hard to break free. Choose instead to watch - and catch yourself - and make a new habit (or response) BEFORE you get carried away. Noticing is enough to end them – if you persist. Write down your insights – and use them to Tap and PSTEC them out of your life. “Life is not a matter  of holding good cards,  but of playing a  poor hand well.”  Robert Louis Stevenson Mindful or purposeful living takes vigilance - but the rewards are worth it. Stopping these 7 addictions from running your life frees you from fear, anxiety and stress. Once the stresses – the cause of illness — are eliminated, you will quickly return to vitality and health. Success is a social concept and the more willing and open you feel towards others, the safer, happier you are. Opportunities are shared resources.  Develop a response to each of the 7 Addictionsand very soon an emotional upset will be the “red flag” to wake-up and make new choices. Do you see that problems are the opportunity to find balance?  You will soon see your mind stuck on one topic and obsessing – like a warped record or CD. The past is gone and if an instance from your past is interfering with your “now” then use the EFT, Tapping or PSTEC audio tools to change it. Try something new – all the intro programs are free. Good Fortune,  Cheryl Janecky p.s.  Pretty? Plastic surgery and treatments and huge expenses: listen to Katie Maakai asks - Will I Be Pretty? Stress-Free-Relationships - is a good place to begin if your energy is tied up with anxious relationship problems Give this technique a try too. Please pass along the Good Fortune Tips to your friends and family – and on your Social Sites. Take a moment while it’s in front of you and forward it along. 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